Shut Up

They say that if you don't have anything good to say about/to a person, it's better to keep quiet. I believe that. Not just because saying bad things towards a person will get you in trouble. Saying mean things to someone results in hurt feelings and deep wounds that won't easily heal. Or in some cases, don't heal at all.

Furthermore, you're not only hurting the person you're being mean to but you're also hurting yourself. And in the long run, you'll realize that the one who is more affected is you. Why? Because in time, that person will forget all about the things you said to him. He may even already have forgiven you without you knowing. While you regret all the things you said. Your conscience will bother you and it is you who will end up thinking about it.

Also, who will burn up in hell for saying crazy things about a person? You, right? Yes, the person you're fighting with (or probably not) may get angry about what you said but as long as he remained wiser than you are and not say a single word that may hurt you or get you angrier, he didn't commit a sin (like that) like you did.

Yeah, there are times that our patience burn out and we'd say things that we would soon regret. I do that too. But don't make it as an excuse for having a big mouth. I mean, don't make it a habit to yell at someone when they annoy you. Instead, try to keep your calm (or just clench your fist but don't hit the person) and shut your mouth. It will make you burn or itch to spat something back but fight the urge. In time, you'll notice that you're beginning to take hold of your feelings and control your anger. I do the same whenever I'm mad at someone. I can think of a thousand mean words to say to a person in a nanosecond and hit him with it like a whiplash. But I try to put my tongue on a leash before I go on a roll and recite my anger like the Preamble.

This is very important especially once you have children. Parents often get exhausted with the daily chores and craziness of the household so they often lose their temper and say terrible things to their kids. That's understandable and it happens to everyone but as I said, don't make it a habit.

I'm telling you, you'll feel terrible after you have shouted at your dear child that you just wanted to bang your head on the wall for making your kid feel awful by what you said. There is nothing more dreadful than making your child (of all people) feel horrible.

However, if you have already said something mean, apologize. Tell them that you're really sorry and mean it. Don't just say sorry just for the sake of apologizing. Show your kids that if you did something wrong, you should talk about it and it's best to apologize about it. You're not just asking for forgiveness. That way, you're also teaching them to be good people.

Lesson:
(yeah) If you don't have anything good to say about/to a person, keep quiet. Aside from making you stay out of trouble, it will make you a better person in time.